Self Confidence & Obstacles


Most people struggle with self confidence, in one area of life or another.  For some it may be self confidence in relationships or parenting.  It could be in the area of our jobs and careers.  Many who are striving to reach goals and dreams in life will encounter this struggle, especially if their journey requires moving past rejections in accomplishing these dreams and goals.

Sometimes we can be too hard on ourselves, feeling that we should not feel the thoughts or emotions that come with this territory, and we may strive to “toughen up” and to strive to become emotionally and mentally stronger.  

It is not the obstacle itself which is the problem.  And the fact that these obstacles may give us negative thoughts and emotions is not the problem as well.  It is all about how we handle and process those feelings and emotions.

We choose if we will dwell on these obstacles, and the emotions/feelings which are attached with them.  We have the ability to choose if we can process through them and move on, or to be stifled with them and to dwell on the feelings with them.  

Ralph Waldo Emerson stated that, “What lies before us and what lies behind us are small matters compared to what lies within us.  And when we bring what is within us out into the world, miracles happen.”

If what lies within us is the most powerful part of who we are, it only stands to reason why our biggest life struggles are within us.  There is where we find our goals, passions, hopes, dreams, and everything about the person who we are.  When we encounter the negative emotions and feelings that can accompany working towards our goals and dreams, we simply need to focus on how to process through them, and move on.  The problem is not having these thoughts/feelings.  There is only a problem if we allow them to control and hold us back.  This is where it hinders our self confidence.

What are the obstacles in your life?  What is holding you back from feeling peace, and reaching your goals and dreams?  They do not have to hold you back and limit you.  An obstacle being in place does not mean it is the end of your path.  You can find your way through those circumstances, and to make your goals and dreams a reality.

You can reach your dreams, and accomplish your goals.  You can believe in yourself and have the self confidence to proceed.  You can make the path and life which you strive for and desire in your heart.

You can make it happen.  What is your next step?